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On our quest for love and a partner that we find suitable for us, there will be many obstacles to overcome. While dating, becoming discouraged during the process of elimination may become one of them. If you’re feeling like you won’t ever get to your happy ending because once upon a time seems like too long of a time to wait for “the one” then we’re here to tell you otherwise.  Truth be told, you really have to be willing to talk, text, eat dinner with, and yes, unfortunately, kiss a couple of frogs; until you get to your fairytale.

Start off by changing your mindset about dating. Stop looking at it as a dreaded task and think of it as a new adventure, sort of like that new pair of shoes that you can’t wait to wear and we all know that there’s no telling where a good pair of shoes might lead you; hopefully into the arms of your potential husband! Anyway, don’t let a few duds ruin your optimism because you really can go from asking each other what’s your favorite color to picking out color schemes for the wedding venue. I’m just saying, you really never know! Go into each situation positively because even if it doesn’t work out, you could possibly gain a friend or worse case scenario have a really great hell date story to share with your girlfriends. For example, like the time I went to dinner with a guy who pronounced the “L” in salmon then proceeded to tuck the white cloth napkin into his shirt as if it were a bib. I knew in that very moment I couldn’t live like that for the rest of my life but I still laugh about it with my friends to this day.

On a more serious note, take notes on the type of people you are dating. Are you learning from your failed attempts? What could you have done differently and what have you learned from each encounter? It’s impossible to make progress if you continuously date the same types of people in different bodies. Figuring out your ideal partner and your deal breakers will save you time and unnecessary frustration. Understand that there is no such thing as a perfect person but it is possible to find someone worth creating the perfect love with.


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Also, we must get rid of this notion that we have to accept anything just to be able to say we have something. You don’t have to put up with cheating, lying, or abuse. In fact, anyone who doesn’t satisfy your needs and wants, fulfill your dreams, or serve your best interest isn’t for you! What you want exists, but if you settle then you’ll never get it. Anything worth having is worth waiting for and chances are if you had to wait for it then it’s worth keeping so stop trying to say farewell to your fairytale.