As women with our feminine mystique and bleeding hearts, we can often give our best to people in general who quite honestly don’t deserve it, and are often a savage acting as something completely different underneath the surface. These people can often be family members, so called “friends”, love interests, and the list goes on. In the end we stand with those same bleeding hearts in our hands, helpless and piecing ourselves back together, struggling to figure out what happened and where we went wrong to deserve that level of betrayal. The key thing to remember is that it’s not you that a savage person doesn’t care about; the savage cares about no one but self. The question remains how do you keep yourself from being susceptible and prey to a savage. Here are 4 tips to help you stop saving savages.
1. Evaluate whether someone is aware of their behavior
Before we can talk about savages, let’s give a general definition as to what encompasses someone as a savage. A savage is anyone who will do any and everything to serve self whether it crushes the hearts and causes catastrophe for those around them. With that in mind, really assess the situation and figure out if this person is indeed just unknowingly selfish but willing to change. On the other hand, if the person is an outlaw who no matter how many ways you give them that they can improve they refuse to change, wash your hands of them. You will only waste time and energy changing someone who doesn’t feel compelled to change.
2. See if they are willing to change or if they even want to be saved
Sometimes you will have a savage who has adapted to become resilient to an environment or set of circumstances but doesn’t inherently disregard the thoughts, feelings, and well being of others. If you draw your line in the sand and they respond in kindness, keep developing through the growing pains of the relationship and make sure you assess whether there is demonstrated change that you can live with. However, if you share that their behavior hurts you or is disrespectful towards you and they make no effort to change, continuing to do that which is harmful, shady, underhanded or doesn’t agree with your spirit, then in the words of Project Pat “ Don’t save em, they don’t wanna be saved”!! Release them to go wherever that energy is welcomed.
3. Don’t give them your energy or time
The power a savage has is perceived power to affect others by appearing to be unaffected. If you don’t yield them any life no matter what type of manipulative tactics they use they will lose their ability to be effective in their interaction with you. Remain calm and focus on bringing positive energy to your environment. And remember you can’t devote time and energy towards caring for someone who doesn’t care about you.
4. Don’t become the savage that acted like a savage towards you
The number one way you can stop saving savages is to not be one yourself. Yes, guard your heart and life from those who have shown that they cannot be responsible or deserving of sharing it with you. However, you prevent yourself from having the beautiful life you deserve if you shut people out left and right and always only think of self. As the old saying goes “ Don’t become whoever hurt you”, and that couldn’t be more true sis. The world needs the gifts, talents, skills, abilities and love you have to offer. So yes, look out for yourself and be aware of savages but don’t continue to save savages until you ultimately lose yourself. In the end the only one who loses is you. Instead save yourself by giving yourself fully to those things that deserve you and will foster you. Such things will lead to you becoming such an amazing woman that you will see those benefits pour over into every area of your life. And that’s worth saving every bit of you for.