love when love doesn't love you

As women we can be among the most nurturing creatures on Earth, and give endlessly and selflessly to others, often to our own demise or disadvantage. We often love the wrong type of men. The men who cheat on us, don’t bring out the best in us, don’t believe in our dreams, often investing precious weeks, months, and sometimes years that we can never get back  by loving someone with a far greater magnitude than the love that they returned. In the end these situations leave us sometimes financially, physically, mentally and emotionally broken and often left to pick up the pieces by ourselves. Many times after that we often keep seeking that same type of man unconsciously perpetuating a cycle of loving men who don’t love us.

love when love doesn't love you

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But ever the beautiful creatures we are, we’re equal parts resilient and strong. Thus, for the woman who loves when love doesn’t love you keep giving your heart and putting yourself out there AFTER YOU’VE had a chance to envision what your ideal romance looks like. Take the time to resolve within yourself that you will not settle, and stop believing that you can meet him someday. Don’t waste time on being bitter. All men are not bad and will not mistreat your heart or play games with your head. Give yourself the freedom to heal, and know just because one man didn’t love you who wasn’t worthy or ready for the love you have to give, doesn’t mean that no man ever will.

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Remain classy and don’t allow the worst of that situation to take the best of you with it. Vent, deal with your issues, be vulnerable with your girlfriends, family and loved ones and do whatever it takes to walk through your process. Seek counseling or therapy if need be, but don’t allow a small chapter in your life to come in and create limiting beliefs about what the rest of your story holds and how those chapters will unfold. Understand you are the creator of all the good you see around you and your thoughts are powerful and create the reality you see. Stay the course and keep on affirming yourself; keep doing your thing as you work to become whole and happy again. Share as you believe is appropriate because in sharing your story, and light you give others permission to share and begin their healing process as well. Most importantly, realize that it wasn’t love that didn’t love you, it was a heart that wasn’t open to the capacity of love you had to offer and what that meant to you. Trust in your heart though that love is a lofty gift that requires big hands and a bigger heart to cling to and share with the one that gives it and is looking to receive it. And that my dear sister, is all the encouragement you really need and the hope you desire for the love you deserve.

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