Amanda Seales is on point! After watching my favorite comedian, Amanda Seales on her YouTube show, “Gem Dropping with Amanda Seales: Attention vs. Affection”, I began to ask myself…Why are situations-ships still a thing?



Honestly, before there was even a term called “Situation-ship”, it was “Booty Call”,  to a “friend with Benefits”, to my favorite, “It’s complicated”. All the more reason to dive into this discussion. Do you feel Situation-ships are more common today than ever? What do you feel is making them so common?  I have my thoughts. Coming from my own personal journey with this term, for me, it simply boiled down to three things:

  1. I was afraid of being alone.
  2. I didn’t want to be with anyone else but my Ex.
  3. I fell in love with the potential of him and not the truth of him.
  4. Honorary Mention: He wasn’t ready for commitment and I was cool with waiting.
photo: Google Images

photo: Google Images

There I said it. For me, these three…well four, things kept me stuck in essentially what I know now to be a dead-end. At best, situation-ships are comfortable. You already know the person (because 9 times out of 10, it’s your Ex.), and you don’t feel like starting over. In addition to being comfortable, Bae maybe has shown small signs or glimmers of hope that he will change. So maybe instead of a single rose, he purchased a dozen. Maybe instead of Netflix and chill, you went to the actual movie theater. These are all small, but big enough to convince a comfortable woman that things are changing. If you ain’t clicked the link to Amanda’s Gem Dropping, now would be the time. She literally breaks this stuff down in under five minutes! Share this article with a friend, sister, co-worker. I think we should spread this conversation as far and wide as it can go. I live to see the day where Situation-ships become uncommon.

Rebel on,