I know this may sound cliche, however, communication is an essential part of marriage. Most issues in relationships/marriages can be eliminated, dissolved, or non-existent just by having a conversation. Major mistakes are made in relationships/marriages because the individuals didn’t know how each other felt. Here are a few takeaways that I’ve learned and are still learning in my marriage.
- Speak to each other, first. From personal experience, sometimes our family and friends can give us the worst advice ever. Not because they mean us harm, but because they’re bias when it comes to us. They’re family, so they see no fault. The advice or counsel can be one sided. We are supposed to go directly to the source. The very person that we are in covenant with. Talk to your spouse first. This will save you any added confusion.
- Be Expressive with your spouse. I mean talk about the good, the bad and the ugly. For instance, even if you feel that the subject may be “touchy”, just talk. Your spouse will surprise you will their response at times. My husband’s famous words to me are, “try me”. You should try and you’ll be amazed.
- T.E.D. Tell, Explain, Describe. Tell your spouse how you feel, explain the reasoning behind the feelings, and describe whatever and however things need to change or remain the same.
Relationships and marriages are constantly growing. So, it will take effort, compromise and work for both parties. Communication is at the very center of relationships/marriages. It’s been 13 1/2 years for us and I found out new things about my husband every day, just by simply talking.