So many of us are out here chasing a dollar and a dream. It’s hard enough that so many of us struggle trying to piece together those visions to even make it work. So when we finally get it right it’s a dope feeling knowing that we’ve actually made something of ourselves. That’s when that pat yourself on the back thing comes in. We all need it every once in a while but nowadays it seems like those claps are getting harder and harder to come by. It’s quite difficult staying grounded as is but when the lack of support kicks in things can get pretty heavy. I know this feeling all too well and it’s not always the easiest to shake but it’s a must. I’ll tell you why…
You’re on this journey to becoming the best version of yourself. If that doesn’t deserve some praise by itself. Wanting more for yourself doesn’t come easy. I mean anything worth having usually doesn’t. There’s going to be this phase where you literally see the people around begin to drop like flies. It’s frustrating when you don’t understand why it is that this is happening. BUT (and I used that word with such emphasis) once you fully understand the necessity behind it you’ll soon learn that you can use this to your advantage and here’s how.
1. They ask me what I do and who I do it for
No matter what your mission or purpose may be, at the end of the day you ultimately do it for yourself or at least that should be your reasoning. If what you’re pursuing doesn’t set you on fire and excite you by the very thought of it you might want to rethink things. We have to come to realize when it’s vital to put ourselves first and stop allowing other people to live through us. At the end of the day you should always be your number one supporter because if no one else has your back you know you will. And you know what they say, nobody’s gonna do a better job of getting things done than doing it yourself.
2. Stop expecting things from people
People are human and no one is quite the same. Of course we want our friends and family to support our every move. In a perfect world this would happen but unfortunately we live in the real world where people only make time for the things they want. Which means if you’re constantly having to pull teeth to have people show up and show out for you perhaps these people don’t see your visions with the same eyes. And that’s okay? We have to stop expecting people to react in the same manner in which we would because if they did then the world wouldn’t be as unique as it is. Instead of expecting things to go a certain way change your perspective. By reworking the way you see things it makes it easier to get through tough times.
3. Redesign your circle
I know, I know…Drake said it best, no new friends but sometimes new friends are needed. During a recent random conversation I was advised to get “professional friends”. At first I had no idea what that meant but with further explanation I understood every part of it fully. I love the people I have in my life but sometimes they piss me off by both their lack of support and/or understanding. Then it hit me. If I surround myself with people who are stagnant and complacent in their everyday lives I really can’t fault them for not being supportive. When you get to a certain point in your life it’s mandatory that you place yourself in settings with people who are doing similar things if not, better than you. These people will support you through their own work habits and doings.
4. Let things go
If you can’t get over people not being in your corner then you may not be ready for success just yet. There will be things that you do that some people just won’t like, get, understand, or want to be apart. Sadly, this is the reality of things. If you harbor old feelings and hold onto resentments you’ll never truly get far. By moving forward and letting go of negativity you give yourself the encouragement that’s needed to get lifted off the ground.
Next time you’re having a hard time juggling through emotions and find it tough staying on top of your A-game be sure to visit these tips. Nine times out of ten you just need a breather. You gotta be in it to win it. Remember the dream is yours. Support will always follow when the time is right. Happy dream chasing!