Woman in computer room thinking

Sometimes with certain projects I’m working on I feel like I’m not making any progress, even though I’m consistently crossing things off my list. But when I find that I start feeling overwhelmed or constantly thinking, “WTF am I doing?”  It’s usually because of one of the five reasons listed below:

  1. I’m not organized.

Sometimes life gets hectic and you find yourself saying, “I’ll get to it on my off day” or “I’ll do it tomorrow when I have more energy“. It’s a trap. Don’t fall for it my girl. Whenever you find yourself saying one of those phrases more than usual , I promise you that you are on the fast track to accomplishing nothing.

2. I’m not focused.

If you aren’t organized I know you aren’t focused. When I’m lacking focus I’m usually trying to do too many things at once and I’m messing myself up. I used to believe multitasking was real, but it’s complete BS. I was merely working on one task for a few minutes and then I would stop working on that project to do something else for a few minutes and so on. Stopping and starting a project just delays how long it takes for you to complete it. I know our society throws around phrases filled with buzz words  like, “You’re a self-starting, multi tasking rockstar badass girl boss babe that gets sh*t done under 30 seconds and gets to Hot Yoga class in time after cooking a five course meal for no one in particular.”  It can make you feel like you aren’t going anywhere in life unless you have a million pokers in the fire. Focus on one thing at a time. Finish it and then go to the next task on your list. If you have to break it down, that’s cool. Do some of what you need to do today and then come back to it tomorrow or whenever you schedule time for it.

If there are too many thoughts in your head that makes it hard to focus, then take out a sheet of paper and get everything out until you have convinced your mind that you’re going to handle everything that it’s concerned about. 

3. I’m afraid I’ll remain stuck despite everything I’m doing.

There are some days when I’m crossing something off my list and I feel like I’m still not making any progress. When I start feeling like I’m stuck,  I’m either comparing my progress to that of someone else, or I keep adding stuff to my list so quickly that I don’t even notice my progress. When I start feeling like this I’ll either reach out to the people in my life who I can contact when I need a kick in the butt and some encouragement or I’ll just reflect on where I am versus where I was and I can see and feel the difference.

4. It’s not perfect.

Perfectionism is a beast that can overtake you. It will cause you to get stuck in the research phase of a project because you just have to make sure everything is P-E-R-F-E-C-T.

Sometimes you just have to say, “F*ck it. I’m doing this. I’m scared and it isn’t going to look how I imagine, but I just have to see what I can do. I want this and I can always come back and change it later. I just need to get started.”

5. I’m not 100% sure what I’m doing, so I’ll just wait for an epiphany.

Nobody is really sure what they’re doing 100% of the time when they start something new. That’s why it’s new.  You may love reading and taking classes, but no matter how many classes or books you read  YOU will NEVER be 100% ready when embarking on something new. I know this next line is going to sound like an after school special, but we’ll never know what we are capable of until we try.

Lightning will not always strike while lazing about watching Being Mary Jane. You might get a great idea, but that’s just it. It’s just a thought until you actually do something about it. So until you take action on that idea, its worthless to you.

I know sometimes it feels like you may not be moving, but I promise you, you’re moving, even if you don’t notice it. So, let’s make our movements in life purposeful by organizing what needs to be done, focusing on one task at a time, and recognizing what we’ve done so far.

 

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