We are all queens in our respective ways with all our talents, skills, gifts, abilities, hips, lips, fingertips, and all our idiosyncrasies in between, that make us wonderfully and uniquely a QUEEN. But often times the dating scene and life, in general, can blur that queenly focus that we should always be in the forefront of our mind, to truly attract the love and life we desire and deserve. No matter what crazy trials, dating nightmares, or broken hearts you’ve braved, you’ve come out better and for that, that truly makes you royal and a Queen indeed. Now let’s get into navigating the dating scene like only a Queen can to get you closer to crossing the path of that special someone who will help you rule the world!
Remember your worth and realize you are worthy
We’ve all been guilty of accepting less than royal treatment and giving way too much attention to court jesters and similar distractions that take away from our true Queen reality. But the only way you can truly attract what you deserve is to know what you don’t deserve and desire. So yes, while some of those moments make you look back, cringe, and think “ Dang what was I thinking or doing?” don’t be so hard on yourself. You needed those moments to propel you to the beautiful reality that you are at right now: a beautiful woman who knows what she brings to the table, can add to another person’s life, and is not afraid to remove anything from her life that no longer serves her and adds to her kingdom/empire. Know your worth and your non-negotiable items/ deal breakers and don’t be afraid to stick to them, the love of your life will more than meet your expectations. You just need to be clear and have a CLEAR IDEA as to what those characteristics look like, how they shape the image of the woman you are and are becoming and ensure they allow for growth for the woman you want to be.
Have standards but don’t let your standards have you
It’s great to have standards and a running checklist of what you want (someone loving, funny, caring, ambitious, etc.) but don’t get so caught up on your standards and meeting EVERY item on your checklist that you totally dismiss someone that isn’t perfect but PERFECT for YOU. Your type could be the reason you are blinding yourself to someone who could blow your mind and be that breath of fresh air you’ve been praying for. Be open, keep your standards, but prepare for the journey of meeting your perfect complement to surprise, challenge, and bless you. Embrace the journey, enjoy the ride, and never forget you are a Queen.
Have fun, be approachable, and bask in all that is you QUEEN
The whole point of dating is to meet people to determine whether or not this is a person you can go the long haul with and how they fit into your life. If that person doesn’t fit that set of criteria, it’s okay Queen. Keep your head up and your crown high. Keep your heart light, smile often, remain unfazed and un-bothered and always carry yourself with dignity and class. Have fun, enjoy your life, bask in your beauty, and just continue giving off that magnetic energy. Always check in with your gut/peace/spirit, it will never lie to you. You never know where you will run into the future love of your life and the last thing you want to do is appear to be unapproachable, scowling, or like nothing is going right for you. Even if you are having a rough week/season, vent your frustrations with a close friend or loved one, work out, de-stress, and keep it pushing, nobody likes a Negative Nancy. Remember, like energy attracts like energy so put out what you want to get back. And remember you hold your empire in your hands so rule like the Queen you are!